Today is our 6 month wedding “anniversary”… A day like today, six months ago, Jon and I got married.
In a way, my mind is thinking right now: “I can’t believe it’s been 6 months.. it feels like yesterday!” But, on the other hand, my mind is also wondering where time has gone. It does feel like yesterday AND it feels like a long time ago. I have lots of fantastic memories of the day and still remember everything like it happened just a few days ago. But that’s all they are: Memories.
I remember all the preparations before the big day, all the arrangements that had to be done, all the nerves and stress. And then, the day came and went and that was it. Now I understand why some cultures have full-2-0r-3-day weddings, so at least all those well thought out preparations don’t finish or go away so soon…
So, the question that almost everybody seemed to ask for the first couple of months after the wedding was: How is married life?
Well, married life is fantastic. It really isn’t any different to not-married life, just living together in sin 🙂 We were happy before the wedding, we are happy now. We are the same people, with the same habits… The only difference is a piece of paper that links us legally as husband and wife.
So, if everything is the same.. I wonder what marriage is then. I go back to Mark Twain, that poem that Barbara read at the ceremony, for some inspiration:
makes of two fractional lives
it gives to two purposeless lives
a work, and doubles the strength
of each to perform it,
it gives to two
a reason for living,
and something to live for,
it will give a new gladness
to the sunshine,
a new fragrance to the flowers,
a new beauty to the earth,
and a new mystery to life.
I believe the poem really says it all. Why try to explain Mark Twain’s words when they are so beautiful already. We are a whole now, we have a reason for living. We are married. We are perfect.