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Happy days

A few months back I discovered the #100happydays initiative and decided to give it a go. Every day, on Facebook, I would post about something that had made me happy that day.

Easy, right?

Not so much, no.

Originally I self imposed a rule where I would not talk about the twins, since no matter how naughty or ill or boring they can be, there is always something they do that fills me with joy and happiness. So, no posts about the twins.

It only took me about a week to realise that this self imposed rule was crazy as some days, when I can’t leave the house, for example, there is not much more to my happiness than the kids. So I scrapped the rule.

And it was much easier from then on. Every day there was something… Some days it was a big thing like seeing old friends and having a great time; other days it was small things, like having something really tasty for lunch…

But other days, I struggled to find something unique and new. And this is when I started getting quite pissed off about the whole thing.

Most days (especially towards the end) I found it a chore! Surely this happy-happy, let’s-all-show-the-world-how-cool-we-are enterprise shouldn’t be an annoying task?! It’s not that I hadn’t been happy, but for me happiness is a state of mind and I don’t really need to pin point it to a particular event or thing.

So you know what? I quit it at around day 85. I had had enough. I had nothing to prove to myself, let alone to anyone else. I was tired of having to find unique and new things to post. Who was I trying to impress? I don’t think I failed at the task, since I am and continued being happy since I stopped posting about it on facebook with a silly hadhtag.

Contentment

The secret of happiness is contentment.

I’ve been thinking about this all morning. It’s one of those¬†existential¬†topics that we all can’t help but think about from time to time. Am I happy? But, what is happiness?

Happiness is relative. Every person has their own definition of what happiness is, what makes them happy, and how to achieve that state of mind. There’s no point in making statements like “money gives you happiness”, or “you are only happy when you compare yourself to the misery of others”, because, as I say, happiness is relative.

It is true, though, that wealth makes you happy. But not material wealth, but the one of the spirit.

I have come to the conclusion this morning that the secret to happiness is contentment.

Firstly you have to have the right state of mind. You need to see the glass half full. Then, after you’re realised that happiness is not going to happen overnight, you need to evaluate your life: Are you doing what you want to do with your life? Do you find time for yourself? Are you finding pleasure and satisfaction in the little things?

If the answer to those questions is YES, then you are content with your life. There is no reason why you shouldn’t be happy. We must remember, though, that happiness is an emotion. And emotions can come and go, like sadness or excitement. Being contented, on the other hand, is a more stable and long-term feeling.

So, based on these principles I have to say that I am happy. I have been happy for a long time. Of course we all have our ups and downs, have better days and worse days, and there are days when you simply don’t want to get out of bed. But, it’s got nothing to do with money, with success or with “the neighbour’s grass is greener than mine”.

I read somewhere that being happy is being in love with living, and I couldn’t agree more.

I love being alive. I love who I am and who I’ve become. I love my husband. I love my cat. I love being moved by little things like the clouds, the sun, the stars, the flowers, nature in general. I just love enjoying life my own way. My attitude towards enjoying life is definitely different to other people’s. I don’t need to climb mountains or adrenaline rushes. I live life my own subtle way and that’s the path I’ve chosen, hence me being happy with it.