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Contentment

The secret of happiness is contentment.

I’ve been thinking about this all morning. It’s one of those existential topics that we all can’t help but think about from time to time. Am I happy? But, what is happiness?

Happiness is relative. Every person has their own definition of what happiness is, what makes them happy, and how to achieve that state of mind. There’s no point in making statements like “money gives you happiness”, or “you are only happy when you compare yourself to the misery of others”, because, as I say, happiness is relative.

It is true, though, that wealth makes you happy. But not material wealth, but the one of the spirit.

I have come to the conclusion this morning that the secret to happiness is contentment.

Firstly you have to have the right state of mind. You need to see the glass half full. Then, after you’re realised that happiness is not going to happen overnight, you need to evaluate your life: Are you doing what you want to do with your life? Do you find time for yourself? Are you finding pleasure and satisfaction in the little things?

If the answer to those questions is YES, then you are content with your life. There is no reason why you shouldn’t be happy. We must remember, though, that happiness is an emotion. And emotions can come and go, like sadness or excitement. Being contented, on the other hand, is a more stable and long-term feeling.

So, based on these principles I have to say that I am happy. I have been happy for a long time. Of course we all have our ups and downs, have better days and worse days, and there are days when you simply don’t want to get out of bed. But, it’s got nothing to do with money, with success or with “the neighbour’s grass is greener than mine”.

I read somewhere that being happy is being in love with living, and I couldn’t agree more.

I love being alive. I love who I am and who I’ve become. I love my husband. I love my cat. I love being moved by little things like the clouds, the sun, the stars, the flowers, nature in general. I just love enjoying life my own way. My attitude towards enjoying life is definitely different to other people’s. I don’t need to climb mountains or adrenaline rushes. I live life my own subtle way and that’s the path I’ve chosen, hence me being happy with it.

Dependency

Our little Tom is becoming more and more dependent on us. To tell you the truth, it is quite a weird feeling.

One part of me loves the fact that he has become our little perfect cat, who cares and is so fond of us. You can tell that he actually loves us and adores spending time with us.

On the other hand, it is a bit heartbreaking realising that he used to be such an independent little cat, spending most of his time outside and only coming in to eat and sleep a bit, and now he is more of a house cat.

Is this right?

One of the things that I like about cats is their independence. It’s not like dogs, that need much more attention. You can have a cat, feed him, play with him and still be able to be out of the house for 12 hours straight without causing any considerable psychological damage to them. You don’t need to walk them, they can do their ones and twos on their own and will also entertain themselves for a great part of the day.

They are the perfect pets. They give you so much for so little.

But I have been feeling a tiny bit guilty lately, because we’ve noticed a considerable change in Tommy’s attitude in the last few months. Now he wants to sleep with us all the time, he wants to sit on our laps whilst we are watching TV, he insists in eating anything that we are eating, and he really really misses us when we go away for a break.

We’ve had him for two and a half years now (wow! time flies!) and he has become very domesticated. Maybe it is time for us now too to realise that he IS a house cat who just happen to go out a lot.

Like/Dislike

(“Inspiration” for this entry has been taken from this blog)

Sometimes it amazes me how similar people are. It is true that every person is its own world and everybody is unique and individual in themselves. However, more often than not, we come across people who we’ve never met, people who live miles and miles away.. you’ve never heard their voices, their accents, you don’t know what colour their eyes are.. and still, suddenly you realise that you’ve got more things in common that you would have imagined at first.

Like dislike

This list of things that I like and dislike is very unoriginal, in the sense that almost all of it has literally been copied from the blog I linked to above. Only a few additions of my own. So, here it is:

LIKE

– I like the smell of the ocean
– I like to sing aloud in my house or car
– I like pens, notebooks, crayons, and everything related to stationery
– I like sincere hugs
– I like feeling touched and even letting a tear escape my eyes when someone does something for me, really showing that that person knows me
– I like driving round and about the countryside
– I like sleeping and dreaming with things that may never come true, but make me happy regardless
– I like observing people and finding beauty in the little details
– I like massages and all kinds of rubs
– I like independence, and in ocassions, solitude too
– I like feeling the “tingling” of love
– I like adrenaline and excitement
– I like laughing and making people laugh
– I like helping others
– I like taking pictures
– I like receiving hand-written letters
– I like discovering the soul of cities
– I like history and happy stories too
– I like the sunset
– I like food (really??!?!?!)

DISLIKE

– I dislike lies
– I dislike cruelty and insencirity. I dislike people who talk behind my back
– I dislike people who only think of their own interests
– I dislike people who want to impose their own view or belief
– I dislike people who blame and point the finger at others without admitting their own mistakes
– I dislike scary/gory films
– I dislike being untidy and lazy (and being uncapable of doing something about it once and for all!)
– I dislike people who will try to change you
– I dislike bureaucracy and paperwork
– I dislike “doom and gloom naysayers”
– I dislike people who complain about everything and don’t do anything to improve their situation
– I dislike vengeance and resentment
– I dislike getting into a cold bed
– I dislike not drying properly after a shower
– I hate drugs and their consequences
– I dislike sharing food that I am enjoying (well, I don’t dislike it, but I tend to avoid it xDD)

And in the last few years I’ve also realised that:

– I prefer a quiet night in than a crazy night out
– I prefer watching films from the comfort of my own home
– I prefer the country to the city
– I like owning my house
– I am not as crazy anymore
– I am quite tight with money and I like not to squander
– I have an interesting relationship with fashion: I love to look at it / I hate to wear anything “fashion”
– I can’t handle “standing” concerts any more. Please let me watch from the seating area. Thanks.
– I am nowhere near as opinionated as I used to be
– I have learnt to have peace with myself